Being A Parent

“Children! I never thought I’d feel like giving them away!”


Parenting has been described as the Best Job in the World. It has also been described as frustrating, exhausting, disappointing and much more. Of course, being a parent comes with some or all of these feelings.

Beginning

The arrival of a baby is a time when tiredness can lead to exhaustion.

You can help to cope with this by:

  • Sleeping when the baby sleeps
  • Don’t worry if your house is untidy, or the ironing hasn’t been done.
  • Going with the flow – don’t worry about having a strict routine
  • Getting family or friends to help – for example by watching the baby while you have a bath
  • Enjoying the baby – they are only little for a short time and they can be such fun!

Useful links:
The National Childbirth Trust Parentline plus The Children’s Society NSPCC Homestart

Middle and Teenage years

Give your child reasonable, firm boundaries - and stick to them. Get out regularly with one or two friends – or just talk on the phone.

Remember, if you can, your own experiences as a teenager. This can help you understand the turmoil and changes going on, physically and emotionally, as they try to establish their own identity.

When you or your child is angry, leave the room, and control your breathing. Arrange to discuss the current problem later. It takes about half an hour to calm down after an upset, so try a quick calm down technique. Exercise is a great way to relieve tension, so take a brisk walk if you can.

Try to think differently about your teenager – realise they are trying to be independent. They may well be confused and insecure.

Think of one good quality or strength your teenager has.